Because of this, they tend to use anything they can to become more attached to their partner-including sex-and their fear can turn sex into something emotionally painful rather than enjoyable.įinally, people with an avoidant attachment style are emotionally distant and threatened by intimacy.

On the other hand, those with an anxious attachment style are plagued by low self-esteem and constantly worry about the state of their relationship.

These characteristics naturally lead to healthier and more enjoyable sex because having a close and vulnerable relationship with your partner makes it easier to experience pleasure during sex. The audiobook is available from Book Moon and on Audible.Although Nagoski identifies the three types of attachment styles, she doesn’t discuss the general characteristics of each type and how they lead to a specific kind of sexual behavior.Īccording to the book Attached, individuals with a secure attachment style are loving partners who are comfortable with intimacy and communication. You can also preorder from Amazon, and from a plethora of sellers via Simon and Schuster’s website.Įmily narrates the new audiobook, with the part of The Patriarchy played by her favorite narrator, Nicholas Boulton. Order a signed copy from Emily’s local indie bookseller, Book Moon Books. Emily has recorded a three part audio preface to the book to explain some of what’s new: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3. Come As You Are - REVISED and UPDATED coming March 2, 2021Īfter five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against-and show us how to fight back. Sisters Emily Nagoski, PhD, and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. How can you “love your body” when every magazine cover has ten diet tips for becoming “your best self”? How do you “lean in” at work when you’re already operating at 110 percent and aren’t recognized for it? How can you live happily and healthily in a sexist world that is constantly telling you you’re too fat, too needy, too noisy, and too selfish? What’s expected of women and what it’s really like to be a woman in today’s world are two very different things-and women exhaust themselves trying to close the gap between them. Many women in America have experienced it. Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycleīurnout.

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